Are You Teaching People How To Treat You?

We headed down to Nashville, TN last nightrp_20160328_190507000_iOS-169x300.png for our oldest daughter’s wedding in a few days.  This is the first wedding for our family and it is bittersweet – along with a lot of other emotions that I have yet to experience.  This is definitely a new chapter for our daughter as well as for us and we are looking forward to it.

My wife has taught me many things over the years for which I am grateful and very fortunate to have such a great life partner. Helping our daughters through the turning points in their lives was and is very important to us.  Although we contribute to our family in different ways, we are aligned on the core values and belief system for our family.  One of my favorite quotes my wife consistently taught our daughters was:

“You Teach People How To Treat You”

I loved this quote from her because it helped our daughters (and me) think about the relationships we have and how we are being treated. Life certainly isn’t a straight line and relationships certainly come with up and downs.  Helping others know what you will tolerate and what you won’t is probably the best thing you can do for yourself.

Decide what you will tolerate and make it so.  You may have to have a discussion with a few people or even terminate relationships but it is your life and you need to own it.

Action Items

  • Write down your top 10 people that are in your inner circle.
  • Rate the relationship from 1 to 4.
  • 1-Bad, 2-Needs Major Work, 3-OK, 4-Great.
  • Decide what you are going to do with the 1 and 2’s.

It may sound harsh to terminate a relationship and hard to have a discussion on what you are going to expect and tolerate but that is the only way you will own your life.

Decide Now, Act Today, and Live Your Life on Purpose – Good Luck