Do you know Your Emotional Intelligence Level?

Emotional Intelligence (or sometimes referred to handspressureas emotional quotient) refers to your capacity to recognize emotions of yourself and others around you. Seems like common sense, but it is not as common as you think.

I work around a lot people with a lot of different personality types. Some are leaders, some are managers, and some people that feel they just have a J.O.B.  Regardless of your position either work or home, it’s a good idea to work on improving your EI level. It definitely affects your:

  • Performance at work
  • Attitude at home
  • Physical health
  • Mental health
  • Relationships

EI can be broken down into 5 classifications:

  1. Self-awareness – You recognize your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behavior; know your strengths and weaknesses and self-confidence.
  2. Self-Regulation – Your ability to control impulsive feelings and behaviors, manage your emotions in healthy ways, take initiative, follow through on commitments, and adapt to changing circumstances.
  3. Social Skills and Awareness – You can understand the emotions, needs, and concerns of other people, pick up on emotional cues, feel comfortable socially, and recognize the power dynamics in a group or organization.
  4. Relationship Management/Motivation – You know how to develop and maintain good relationships, communicate clearly, inspire and influence others, work well in a team, and manage conflict.
  5. Empathy – the ability to empathize with others and put yourself in their position.

If you have high emotional intelligence you are able to recognize your own emotional state and the emotional states of others, and engage with people in a way that draws them to you. You can use this understanding of emotions to relate better to other people, form healthier relationships, achieve greater success at work, and lead a more fulfilling and intentional life.

There are basically 5 skills to work on:

  1. The ability to quickly reduce stress in a moment in a variety of settings.
  2. The ability to recognize your emotions and keep them from overwhelming you.
  3. The ability to connect emotionally with others by using nonverbal communication.
  4. The ability to use humor and play to stay connected in challenging situations.
  5. The ability to resolve conflicts positively and with confidence.


  • Take a quick assessment here.
  • Work on the skills above.
  • Seek feedback from others on the 5 classifications to see what they say about you.
  • Read Emotional Intelligence
    by Daniel Goleman.