Did you know that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with? I read this and starting thinking, who are my 5, and am I the average of them? Then I thought back to my younger years and remember my mom watching out for who I “hung” out with growing up. She would have our new friends over for dinner so she could evaluate them and help guide us toward or away from them. I am super thankful for that guidance. This philosophy or law starts at an early age and continues through our whole life. My wife is really good at this – which I appreciate on multiple levels.
The theory comes from the law of averages, which is the theory that any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. Like all salespeople, entrepreneurs and all successful people regardless of their profession know… in order to increase your wins, you have to also increase your losses. Whether we like it or not, we are greatly influenced by our relationships of the ones closest to us. It affects our thinking, self-esteem, and our decision making. We are all our own person, but the fact is we are absolutely influenced and affected by our environment.
- Who are you “hanging” with the most?
- Are you adopting their habits?
- Are you adopting their belief system?
- Are your standards being influenced to be higher or lower?
We all grow over the years which means the people we “hang” out with the most will change. Like it or not, as we grow, our views change and we will probably adopt new friends and co-workers. This means we are changing and it is your job to be changing for the better. Do a quick review in 5 or 10 year segments of the friends you had at different ages? Did you adopt their habits like tennis, running, eating healthy, wine or beer night or nice cars? Keeping your core values while adopting new habits is normal, just make sure you’re adopting habits that help you accomplish YOUR dreams and goals.
Group your friends into 5 or 10-year age brackets below.
- Look for common life patterns?
- Did you adopt others’ habits?
- Did you change friends based on what you wanted or were accomplishing?
Evaluate to ensure you are living according to your values and not others.
- Be intentional about you and the people you “hang” with as they will affect you.
Good Luck and be aware of the influences of people around – both Good and Bad.