Have you ever sat down and truly defined your core values and what is important to you? Do you know your core values and what you stand for? In order to live on purpose and support what is important to you, these are decisions that need to be made – by you – by digging deep down inside of yourself.
Without knowing your core values and what you stand for – you’ll be in a state of confusion and potentially in chaos. These values are like the foundation your house is built on. When your values disintegrate, everything around you also disintegrates because your actions are not in sync with your belief system and core values. This is also known as cognitive dissonance.
Cognitive dissonance is “the mental stress or discomfort experienced by an individual who holds two or more contradictory beliefs, ideas, or values at the same time, or is confronted by new information that conflicts with existing beliefs, ideas, or values”. Wow, that is a mouth full. In today’s technology and interconnected world, we are getting introduced to new ideas and others beliefs at crazy speeds. It is more important than ever to know what you stand for, your beliefs and your foundation.
Take a step back from trying to understand your core values and simply answer this question. Do I know what I will absolutely say YES and NO to? If you can’t answer this question (which is normal), it is time to define your core values – and that is not a one-time event.
One important fact you must keep front and center is that as you get into this process of identifying, clarifying, and writing down your core values, it is not a single event. You do not do this once and forget about it. This is a dynamic and evolutionary process. In order to start the process of defining your core values, you have to open your mind to new possibilities of thinking.
Remember this “Your mind is like a parachute – it only works when it is open.”
Here are some questions and exercises to get you ready to define your core values.