How To Be Fulfilled Every Day?

Success is NOT Fullfillment...

I have been catching up on some Tony Robbins podcasts and books which I have really enjoy. One thing he states over and over is “Success Without Fulfillment is the Ultimate Failure”. I help people with life plans and they usually want to do a life plan when they are not fulfilled. They can be extremely successful at work and other domains of their life, but usually one domain is off AND they are not fulfilled.

I feel a lot of people think they will be fulfilled when they reach a certain point in the vocation domain (aka job/career). I’ve heard it like:

  • When I have $X in the bank
  • When I get this promotion
  • When I make $X in compensation

Fulfillment is About Gratitude, Celebration and Contribution. What I do know is fulfillment is not something in the future, or when you achieve a goal, it can start right now!!! Here is what I have learned HOW to begin the journey of being fulfilled every day:

1.  Start each day with GRATITUDE. Starting and owning your morning routine is probably one of the best gifts you can give yourself besides the gift of self-awareness.

  • Take 5 minutes and meditate on 3 things you are grateful for (people, events, goals, nature, your health, etc.)

The more grateful you are, the happier you become and the more fulfilled you will feel.

 2.  CELEBRATE your ACCOMPLISHEMENTS both current and future. Celebrate a milestone on something you are working toward.
  • Take 5 minutes and celebrate 1 thing you’ve accomplished and 2 things you know you are going to accomplish (like they already happened)
  • Get pumped up about these accomplishments and be happy about these things you are winning.

Until you get your body connected to your accomplishments, you’re going to feel unfulfilled.

 3GIVE Generously regardless of where you are in life. It is our responsibility to give of ourselves. This can be time, money or whatever feels right for you.

  • When you give, it is a reminder of how successful and fortunate you really are.

Once you shift from a model of scarcity (there is never enough) to one of abundance (there is a lot), you will feel a crazy amount of fulfillment.

Action Items

  • Change Your Morning Routine – Do the 3 steps above everyday
  • Recognize when you feel down, not fulfilled, or just in a funk
    • Then do the grateful step immediately

Good Luck and get your life in balance and be grateful TODAY!!!

Is Life or Death Your Counselor?

If it was your last week to live...

It was a cool weekend this past weekend. On January 5, 2018 I was blessed with my first granddaughter – Harper Annalise. My family could be there and it really put a reality on how fast time keeps accelerating and how it is our most important asset and only non-renewable resource.

As I held my grandbaby, it reminded me of a recent video I watched from Tony Robbins about Death and it being your counselor and guide. I know it is a little weird to think about death when I was holding Harper but an event like this should make us all take note and analyze what we are doing and what kind of life we want to live.

I talk to as many people as I can about being intentional about their life and living the life they were meant to live. It’s not easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is. I reviewed the notes from Tony’s video that made me evaluate where I am in life, what I want to accomplish, and what

8 Tips to Kick A** in 2018

Focus on Your Strengths and Attack What is Stopping You...

I just finished my 2018 goal planning that includes quarterly goals which I’m pretty excited about. As I was preparing for my “goal planning” I listened to a podcast by Gary Vaynerchuk. He had some good nuggets to keep in mind while setting your 2018 goals. Here are some of mine and his nuggets to keep in mind while you layout your plan to execute.

  • Stop Complaining
  • Figure Out Who You Are
  • Double Down on What Your Good At (Your Strengths)
  • Figure Out What Fires You Up (Your Passions)
  • Get Tunnel Vision and Focus on Only a Few Things This Year
  • Attack or Address Who is Holding You Back
  • Attack What is Holding You Back
  • Adjust Your Mindset to No Excuses This Year

I thought these were good reminders to run through mentally while planning 2018 and beyond. One thing to consider when you are doing your 2018 goals, is to think beyond 1 year. Think also about who you want to be and what you want to accomplish in:

  • 3 – 5 Years
  • 10 Years
  • 25 Years

Do You Have YOU at the Center of Your 2018 Goals?

I was talking with a friend about their 2018 goals and there were some big missing components revolving around themselves. We can all set goals for 2018, but do you have YOU at the center of your goals? I asked for clarification on some of the goals but it was clear they were missing goals specifically for them. I suggested using the acronym “PIES” to help guide them to ensure they keep a solid self so they can accomplish their 2018 goals. The acronym “PIES” stands for:

P – Physical (Health)

I – Intellectual (Mental Health)

E – Emotional (Expand and Cultivate Healthy Emotional Awareness and Engagement)

S – Spiritual (Faith or Belief Structure)

To accomplish our goals, we have to perform activities that cultivate health and replenish our energy. If you optimize activities that replenish yourself, you can have more energy to be fully engaged, be present, be productive and creative in all domains of your life.

Are You Doing Important Things or Urgent Things?

Time - Our Only Non-Renewable Resource

Time is limited and valuable. Time is our only non-renewable resource we have as an individual so protecting it should be very important to us. I have been talking and mentoring others about protecting our time on important activities over the urgent for a long time. This may be a hard concept to think about but time isn’t going to stop and now is the time to plan the 2018 important items you want to accomplish.

Do you have a system for prioritizing the right activities? I use the decision-making matrix as often as I can and need to make it a habit. I’m fairly confident this started with Dwight D. Eisenhower then brought to the masses with Stephen Covey in his book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Above is the matrix and below is how it can be used to make sure you are prioritizing the important stuff in your life.

“If you do IMPORTANT things, you will meet IMPORTANT people doing IMPORTANT things”

The Difference Between Urgent and Important

Urgent means the task requires immediate attention. These are the to-do’s that shout out loud – NOW! Urgent tasks put us in a reactive mode which usually is a defensive, hurried, negative and narrow-focused mindset.

Important means tasks that contribute to our long-term mission, values, and goals. Sometimes important tasks are also urgent, but typically they are not. When we focus on important activities we operate in a responsive mode, which helps us stay rational, calm, and open to new opportunities.

Ready for 2018?

It's Yours To Own

Starting a new year is always a big event for me. I like to plan, document, dream, digest and discuss my thoughts for the new year. This process helps me make sure my goals make sense, my blind spots are covered and I am working toward my life plan. I feel alignment of priorities as well as working on the important goals is probably the best gift you can give yourself at the beginning of the year. When you define your import goals, remember this.

“If you do important things, you will meet import people doing important things”

Deep and True!!!  You obviously want to set goals for yourself, but keep your legacy in mind which is the long-term thinking.  I tried a newer tool this year that I have used in business for many years. It is called the One Page Strategy Plan which was created by the Gazelles company. I am still using my other tools to process, digest and firm up my goals for the year as well as assess how in balance I am across my life domains. I usually start this process in December and work like crazy to have it done by January 1st.

If you haven’t created your goals, or a life plan for the year. Here are some questions you might consider to get your brain in gear.

  • How balanced am I across my life domains?
  • What is your biggest time waster and what are you going to do about it this year?
  • What are you doing this year that will matter in 10 years, in 50 years?
  • What bad habit will you stop?
  • What good habit are you going to begin – by when?
  • In what life domain do you need to grow this year?

Are You Doing the Right Thing or Wise Thing?

Getting Clarity on Daily Decisions...

One of my personal core values from my Life Plan is “Do The Right Thing”. This past weekend I was working out and listening to Your Move podcast “How to Be Drama Free” by Andy Stanley. He really challenged this statement and me on my core value and belief. I came up with this core value after doing my first Life Plan years ago. I do my best to live this core value and have it guide me in my daily decisions.

On Sunday, when I listened to Andy he made some statements that made me really think about modifying this core value. Andy stated the word “right” is subjective and can be rationalized, justified, and simply wrong on occasions. Andy mentioned the better statement is:

What is the Wise Thing to Do?

I really had to pause and think about this for a while. The word “right” can be subjective so I thought maybe “wise” is a better word. So, I continued listening and then he confirmed my thinking with a few short statements. We should always ask what is the wise thing to do for every opportunity or invitation. The reasoning is it affects our story we are going to tell others about us. Our story can be good or bad and it is based on the decisions we make today. Think about this statement:

“Today will be the Past that will show up in our Future”

Success is an Inside Job

Define Success for 2018

Have you defined success? Most people default success to how much money they have, how much stuff they own, or sometimes how successful their kids are. Defining success can be a weird question but necessary to minimize your regrets in life and simply enjoy life. For me, Success is spending most of my time in my “sweet spot”, balancing my five life domains, and embracing everyday.

  • First – your “sweet spot is where your passions and strengths align.
  • Second – is balancing life across all 5 life domains – personal, family, vocation, faith, and community.

As 2017 comes to a close, it is important to think about what success looks like in 2018 for you. Success is an inside job and if you want to accomplish anything great, it must start from the inside and manifest itself outside of you. We all learn a lot of stuff everyday which accounts for about 15% of our total success. 85% or more comes from our mindset AND what we feed it on a daily basis.

6+ Daily Questions That Can Change Your Life – Part 2

Do you think 6 daily questions can change your life? I didn’t think so until a few months ago when I taught 2 days of a personal growth course with a colleague to business owners and executives. The course was for Renaissance Executive Forums members and was based on Marshall Goldsmith’s book called triggers. I enjoy teaching others about self-awareness and how to improve their lives both professionally and personally. The focus of the course was identifying triggers in our life that cause us to respond both positively and negatively.

Being able to respond vs. react can help you significantly be more of who you want to be. Responding simply put is knowing how you will act in certain situations regardless of the environment and people. Reacting is when you have not hard-wired your action to a situation so your actions may be good or bad.

Self-awareness is the best gift you can give yourself so you can be more of who you want to be at work and home. Asking yourself active questions rather than passive questions empowers you to make changes you wouldn’t otherwise think about. I never realized how big of an impact asking active questions vs. passive questions. Think about these examples:

  • Passive Question – Do you have clear goals?
  • Active Question – Did I do my best to set clear goals for myself?