Are You Doing the Right Thing or Wise Thing?

Getting Clarity on Daily Decisions...

One of my personal core values from my Life Plan is “Do The Right Thing”. This past weekend I was working out and listening to Your Move podcast “How to Be Drama Free” by Andy Stanley. He really challenged this statement and me on my core value and belief. I came up with this core value after doing my first Life Plan years ago. I do my best to live this core value and have it guide me in my daily decisions.

On Sunday, when I listened to Andy he made some statements that made me really think about modifying this core value. Andy stated the word “right” is subjective and can be rationalized, justified, and simply wrong on occasions. Andy mentioned the better statement is:

What is the Wise Thing to Do?

I really had to pause and think about this for a while. The word “right” can be subjective so I thought maybe “wise” is a better word. So, I continued listening and then he confirmed my thinking with a few short statements. We should always ask what is the wise thing to do for every opportunity or invitation. The reasoning is it affects our story we are going to tell others about us. Our story can be good or bad and it is based on the decisions we make today. Think about this statement:

“Today will be the Past that will show up in our Future”

Success is an Inside Job

Define Success for 2018

Have you defined success? Most people default success to how much money they have, how much stuff they own, or sometimes how successful their kids are. Defining success can be a weird question but necessary to minimize your regrets in life and simply enjoy life. For me, Success is spending most of my time in my “sweet spot”, balancing my five life domains, and embracing everyday.

  • First – your “sweet spot is where your passions and strengths align.
  • Second – is balancing life across all 5 life domains – personal, family, vocation, faith, and community.

As 2017 comes to a close, it is important to think about what success looks like in 2018 for you. Success is an inside job and if you want to accomplish anything great, it must start from the inside and manifest itself outside of you. We all learn a lot of stuff everyday which accounts for about 15% of our total success. 85% or more comes from our mindset AND what we feed it on a daily basis.

6+ Daily Questions That Can Change Your Life – Part 2

Do you think 6 daily questions can change your life? I didn’t think so until a few months ago when I taught 2 days of a personal growth course with a colleague to business owners and executives. The course was for Renaissance Executive Forums members and was based on Marshall Goldsmith’s book called triggers. I enjoy teaching others about self-awareness and how to improve their lives both professionally and personally. The focus of the course was identifying triggers in our life that cause us to respond both positively and negatively.

Being able to respond vs. react can help you significantly be more of who you want to be. Responding simply put is knowing how you will act in certain situations regardless of the environment and people. Reacting is when you have not hard-wired your action to a situation so your actions may be good or bad.

Self-awareness is the best gift you can give yourself so you can be more of who you want to be at work and home. Asking yourself active questions rather than passive questions empowers you to make changes you wouldn’t otherwise think about. I never realized how big of an impact asking active questions vs. passive questions. Think about these examples:

  • Passive Question – Do you have clear goals?
  • Active Question – Did I do my best to set clear goals for myself?

6 Daily Questions That Can Change Your Life

Active Questions To Achieve What You Want...

Do you think 6 daily questions can change your life? I didn’t think so until last week when I taught 2 days of a personal growth course with a colleague to business owners and executives. The course was for Renaissance Executive Forums members and was based on Marshall Goldsmith’s book called Triggers. I enjoy teaching others about self-awareness and how to improve their lives both professionally and personally. The focus of the course was identifying triggers in our life that cause us to respond both positively and negatively.

Being able to respond vs. react can help you significantly be more of who you want to be. Responding simply put is knowing how you will act in certain situations regardless of the environment and people. Reacting is when you have not hard-wired your action to a situation so your actions may be good or bad.

When it comes to being more self-aware so you can be more of who you want to be at work and home, asking yourself active questions rather than passive questions empowers you to make changes you wouldn’t otherwise think about. I never realized how big of an impact asking active questions vs. passive questions. Think about these examples:

Grow or Die – My Book List 2017

Be a Learner Forever...

I feel you are either growing or you are dying and one easy way to make sure you are growing is to read. They say leaders read and readers lead so it is a good habit or goal to read 2 to 4 books a month at a minimum. For this reason, I compiled a list of books that have helped me over the years. They have shifted how I think about life, business, productivity, and time.

Most of us start working in a tactical/technical fashion then move to some level of management. If you are humble, hungry and smart, you probably have made the big jump to leadership. I found this level the biggest and most fulfilling level and could not of done it without a lot of the books below.

Action Items

  • Commit to a continual learning lifestyle – whatever that is for you. It could be business, cooking, or pure personal growth.
  • Decide how many books you are going to read a week/month and keep track of them.
  • Share your learnings on my blog, with a friend or co-worker. When you share learnings it helps to solidify that learning in your memory so you can apply in life.

Big Picture

Strategy

In a 100 Years What is Going to Matter?

Are you living your legacy today...

In a 100 years what is going to matter is a mindset most of us don’t really want to think about. We had our solar eclipse this past Monday and for some it was the only total solar eclipse they are going to see. The next one will be in 100 years which is weird to think about. Looking this far out gets you into a mindset of legacy thinking because your beliefs and values can be seen and continue through someone else if you are intentional about them. My wife and I work on being intentional in life and one big focus for us is making sure our daughters understand our beliefs and values.  If we want our belief system around in 100 years, we know it has to be through them and their families.

The question of what type of legacy do you want to leave is often discussed when my wife and I do life plans for others. One way to ease into mindset is to start with a few shorter future views:

In 10 Years What is Going to Matter?

In 20 Years What is Going to Matter?

One of the biggest reasons for doing a Life Plan is the truth that legacy happens by how we live life today. All of us need more focus on legacy and the impact we hope to leave behind because legacy is built as we do life. When you die, you leave a legacy, but you lost the opportunity to leave and build an intentional legacy. When you do this you just leave the sum total of how you lived your life – good or bad. Being focused on how we live is essential if we want to build intentionality into our legacy.

One big reason I wrote my workbook – You in the Sweet Spot is so others can do a Life Plan themselves to get their life moving the way they want it really to move. Going through life without a plan will never allow you to maximize your potential and build a legacy.

“You Don’t Plan to Fail, You Fail to Plan”.

Action Plan

  • Do A Life Plan
  • Think about what is going to matter in 50 and 100 years – really digest and see it. Your kids, your kids -kids, your kids friend. The ripple effect of your legacy can be big!!!

Best of Luck and start thinking Legacy…

Who is Influencing You Today?

I recently had a conversation with one of my daughters friends and he seemed to be acting a little differently. I pressed him a little about what he has been doing and how life has been going for him. The last question I asked is who as he been hanging out with that last few months. This is an important question because the people closest to you and the people you hang around the most can have the biggest influence on you – good and bad.

Did you know that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with? The theory comes from the law of averages, which is the theory that any given situation will be the average of all outcomes. Like all salespeople, entrepreneurs and all successful people regardless of their profession know… in order to increase your wins, you have to also increase your losses. Whether we like it or not, we are greatly influenced by our relationships of the ones closest to us. It affects our thinking, self-esteem, and our decision making. We are all our own person, but the fact is we are absolutely influenced and affected by our environment.

  •  Who are you “hanging” with the most?
  • Are you adopting their habits?
  • Are you adopting their belief system?
  • Are your standards being influenced to be higher or lower?

We all grow over the years which means the people we “hang” out with the most will change. Like it or not, as we grow, our views change and we will probably adopt new friends and

Problems Don’t Age Well

Have you ever heard the phrase, problems don’t age well? I heard that this morning at a presentation from Tom Deans, author of Every Family’s Business. The meeting or presentation was all about family business legacy and estate planning but I had a ton of take aways that apply to my family even it if isn’t about a family business. Some things and questions that he discussed that apply to both are:

  • Your money is always moving.
  • What does your wealth do for your family?
  • Are you keeping your assets a secret from your family?
  • Do you have a transition plan for your business or your assets?
  • Do you talk about your assets and plans with your family?

There were a ton of other questions but these certainly sparked my interest and made me think about my communications with my family. Fortunately

Do You Have a Trigger Word for You?

To change your mindset and actions...

Do you have a trigger word that makes you pause, take a breath, and redirect your actions? There is a lot of hype on trigger words as they are used in marketing to help you take action, click on a button, or go to a website. They have been around forever in the traditional marketing sense. However, having a trigger word to help guide you with your actions and mindset daily can be very helpful.

Years ago I came up with a few but the one that is a guidepost for me is RESPECT. I came up with this word during one of my retrospective sessions on a meeting I held. A retrospective, generally is a look back at events that took place, or work that were produced, in the past. I like to do retrospectives so I am not making the same mistakes in life or at work. So at one meeting post review/retrospective I noticed that disrespect from me and others kept coming up. I’m not sure how it came up, but now it is one of my major key trigger words.